Why can't mom's just accept that we are all different. There are things that I do and have done with my kids that you might never dream of doing with yours. Well, there are some things that you do with your kids that I wouldn't do with mine!
Is that ok? Yes, yes it is.
Why? Because you are your own mommy-person and I am my own mommy-person. We are not the same. We don't have to be. If we all made the same choices while raising our kids, our kids would turn out the exact same. What fun would that be?
The other day Bethy and I were at Target. We were checking out the Easter stuff and we heard a mom in another aisle yelling at her kid. What did the kid do? I don't know. Would I have been yelling at my kid in Target without a really good reason? Most likely not. BUT.... I don't know what the kid did. I don't know that mom. Maybe she was having a really bad day and kinda flew off the handle for a second. I don't know. But we walked away with a kind smile to mom who smiled back. Maybe that made her day a little better? I don't know that either.
There have been moments when we are out in public that I have yelled at Eli. Over nothing really. But I yelled and then I felt bad. I got the "how could you?" stares from the strangers. I felt bad enough, I didn't need the stares. :(
I just feel like the Mommy Wars are something that we Mommy's need to put aside. When you see something concerning, talk to the mom, don't just judge her. See what is going on and if you can help. We have so many other "wars" we will have to fight... The war of the attitudes, the war of drugs and alcohol, the war of forgiveness, the war of molding our kids into good people even though the world wants to take them another way. THOSE are wars we need to fight! Not these SILLY Mommy Wars! Come on moms, lets stand by each other! There are enough other people who will judge us! Let's not do it to each other!